Gay men who dont want to be gay anymore

The only motivation adequate to see you through recovery from same-sex attraction SSA is complete abandonment to that aching need to live continually in an incredibly intimate one-on-one relationship-with God Himself. Commit to sexual purity.

There are no shortcuts to these two commands. Whatever you surrender, He will provide an even better replacement according to Gods definition of better.

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Pursue the right motivation. People who have been abused or traumatized by authority figures, which includes many who struggle with same-sex attractions, often have faulty perceptions about God. Before you can trust Him, you need to find out who He really is, that He is good, and loving, and safe.

There is suffering and sacrifice to get to the joy of holiness and purity, but God lavishes grace on His children when we obey. You are changing not just one isolated habit, but a collection of thoughts and behaviors that have made up your relational pattern for a lifetime.

When scripture tells us about His compassion, it means He enters into our experiences and feels what we feel. Leaving Gay Lifestyle: Support and helpful resources to leave the gay lifestyle & to find help with same-sex attraction, and resources for family/friends.

In this post, we will explore the concepts of sexual orientation, same-sex attraction, and identity. Recovery and healing always involve crucifying the flesh Gal. God may ask you to give up friends, social contacts, your career, hobbies, dreams, and desires.

This blog is written from my personal experiences on why and how I successfully left the gay life. It is a lie that no one really understands because Jesus Christ fully understands everything about you. Accept that you must make sacrifices to be free and healthy.

Because I knew my relationship with Christ and my sexual desires for the same sex couldn't mix, I had to make a choice. Change that challenges our known comfort zone is difficult and painful. As with any other addiction, there are withdrawal pains. If you are to succeed, you must aggressively engage your will, making deliberate choices to honor God, be self-disciplined, and work with God to form new, healthy habits of relating and believing.

This is the big picture of how to walk out the goal of recovery. This means trusting God for the strength to abstain from physically acting out, engaging in sexual fantasy, pornography and masturbation. Accept that its not going to be easy. Let the misery of not medicating yourself with sexual sin drive you to God instead of your past destructive behaviors.

EDIT: I can‘t believe I have to say this, but guys: YOU DON‘T JUST STOP BEING GAY. Stop being straight for a day and tell me how that worked out for you. It would be like handing a newborn baby a list of all the things he will have to learn in the next five years: everything from learning to turn over, learning to walk, becoming potty-trained, learning to talk, discovering hes not a part of his mommy, learning how to obey, getting ready to read, going to school.

The key to recovering from same-sex attraction is radical discipleship, the call that all Christians have in common.

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That strong and tender relationship with Him knowing Him and being wholly known by Him without anything coming between the two of you is the pure and primary relationship you were created for. Maybe we are okay with them but we just don’t want to identify in a particular way.

This blog aims to encourage everyone to love themselves for who they are, debunking myths about “how to stop being gay” and emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and mental health. Allow us to encourage you to continually ask the Lord, What one thing do You want me to do next?

This video gives validation and guides you in expressing who you are regardless of identity. In the context of trusting God, obedience to His commands and His individual leading are absolutely essential. Trust and obey. An important component of recovery is changing the wrong belief about your identity, that this is me.